need help with mental aspect
This is my first time on this forum...its nice to be here, im 28 from scotland......I had one thing that was really bugging me and was hoping you guys could help me..........last night I was playing some tennis matches, (Doubles), and I one my first doubles game comfortably 6-1, in my next game we all changed partners and I thought to myself I want to try some new techniques, therefore I tried to apply some new forehand grips new serving techniques etc...........because I was trying all these new techniques I was making some errors but i wasnt bothered cos I knew that if I keep on working at it I will eventually get it right and have a new aspect to my game but the lady who was my partner at the time said "I dont think any of us are that good with the kind of shots we are all playing".......I was shocked by my comment and my game totally fell apart after that comment....whenever I went to play ANY shot I was not getting any of my shots in........the players we were playing against yesterday were peopel I have beaten before comprehensively with another player..........We lost that game and also other games we played after that........all tahnks to that one comment.......my shots were rubbish and I KNOW i can play better but how can I get my confidence level back and get that comment out of my head and start playing some good tennis again as I have been for the past few weeks up until that point.....the previous few weeks I was playing marvelous tennis, yesterday was my worst day by a long shot.....I really wish I wasnt playing with her now. Please help.
Tennis is about belief in one another and our God given abilities
Tennis is about friendship and believing in each others game no matter what. Thats what doubles is, you are partners, so why shoot your partner in the heart with mindless comment. Be an encourager and be a true friend. :)
british "fighting spirit and fairplay"
I was always told about the famous british fighting spirit and fair play !
She probably mean she didn't really enjoy the game at the time of the comment. So you did too, if you started to change your own game and try new things...didn't you ?
Just a different way to express it, I guess.
So now, why bother about the comment ? She must count for you so her advice can hurt this way ! Don't mess up tennis and dating, you might be frustrated for both. ;-P
Female players, from my experience with wife and her friends, are less interested by defeating someone than how they played.
Playing double with a woman is often about doing some rallies to get the points where you probably tried the get the one winning shot...(?)
From my point of view you shoud not care about your partner's comments. Just keep going being positive and taking every good thing as a gift.
As I'm not an english native speaker I may have get it wrong but, didn't she mention "all" and not "you" about the quality of the game ?
This general statement may have being the espression of her own frustration, that's all. Don't take the monkey, her problem is hers.
Keep on supporting her so she can enjoy the next time and show then you master the psychology of the game ! ;-)
Good luck and improvements of your game.